I suppose legally I am not officially divorced. The paperwork is notarized and in the mail, but its practically done, the lawyers just have to put their stamp, seal, or whatever it is they do, to make it official and legal.
Dating? Maybe I am jumping the gun on saying that I am dating. Then again, I haven’t been on a date in…., a decade? My ex-wife I met on the internet. Yeah, the Korean one. Ironically I was in Korea, but met her on ICQ. Talked and flirted for several weeks before I even met her. That was October of 2003.
Before her was another mistake in which I can’t really go into cause I turned 21, got drunk, then I somehow have moved to Pennsylvania. The details are fuzzy, but I do remember alcohol. I turned 21 in 1999. Somehow raising my right hand and saying “Send me to Iraq” was more reasonable that staying in Pennsylvania. (It was that bad)
Now about high school. Most of the dates I ended on, were with a long time friend that always found chicks online and they always had a friend for “safety”. Of course they were the main dish and weren’t about to bring a side dish that outdid them. In fact, I swore they tried to find the ugliest girl on the south end of a telephone pole, to come along.
Even then, I still barely had a real date. Being a high school student as well? My budget consisted of “my house or yours?” I was also a geek before being a geek was cool, so members of the opposite sex used me primarily as a door mat. (I heard a rumor that it’s cool now, I hope they were right) This made it hard to find someone to “date”, let alone know what the true definition is.
To some a date is when, two people that go out and participate in a light discussion or social gathering. To others, it’s very technical and baseball acronyms are involved.
Tonight I went out with a girl. I don’t know if I want to call it a date, or if I dare.
I walked her to her car, she dropped off her books, went to my car and I drove to the mall where we debated what to eat. When the check came I paid, and when it came time to part ways, we hugged and said goodbye. If that wasn’t a date, then I hope someone would be kind enough to explain the general rules.
To use baseball acronyms, I would have to say that the ump has told me to take a walk to first base. Nothing has happened, but I am heading that direction. Remind you that I am still a geek, so at any time without warning I may trip and fall on my face, stop and ask directions, or get short of breathe and turn around and run for my inhaler.
So there are several things about this that have me a little frazzled. This divorce isn’t even legal yet, and until a week ago I seriously had hopes that it would work out with my ex-wife. So it’s safe to say that I am on the rebound.
The other issue…, this girl is only 19. She only graduated high school, a little more than a year ago. But is that even an issue? I am 11 years older than this girl. I even compared birthday’s, to hopefully shave off a year. That didn’t help me out at all since, our birthday’s are within two weeks of each other. To be properly accurate I am 10 years, 11 months, and 15 days older than her. (I’m a geek of course I counted)
It led up to the date after a series of passing notes in English class. (A 6 credit, 3 hour class) I don’t think I heard anything that was said in class today, nor do I really care. I had a smile on my face and was blushing the entire class. One thing we talked about was that she noticed I wasn’t wearing my wedding ring today. I explained a slight summary and concluded at lunch with the fact that my ex-wife is mentally unsound. From there it was just casual flirting and constant blushing.
I don’t know how I would ever spend time with her though. She always has her homework done more thoroughly than any other student, holds 18 credits, works two jobs, and takes care of her appearance like a beauty queen. I don’t know how I would manage everything she does, let alone dating?
Bottom line this girl has me very interested, and I have logical reason to believe she is also interested. She is cute as hell which baffles why she would be interested in me. So maybe I am just an idiot.
I just hope I am not jumping to any conclusions, or rushing into this. She is very cute, very smart, and overly independent. All of which are the main qualities that I find important in a woman. In short I like her, and hope everything works out. I hope to ask her out over the weekend, but pray she can squeeze me into her schedule.
